Kind not Nice

Calm Enough to Be the Clown

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Ava
Sep 01, 2025
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When I was seventeen, I got my first tattoo. I was impatient to skip ahead, to brand myself with permanence before I even knew what I wanted permanent.

It was a Tony Hoagland line, looping across skin still soft with youth: “and I am calm enough to be grateful for the lives I never have to live again.”

At seventeen I didn’t understand it, not really. I …

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